Stopping Bully Behavior
Bully Behavior Curriculum Page 15
Author: Lynne Namka, Ed. D
Things to Do When Someone Bigger Than You Tries To Hurt You
- Remember, all people should be treated with respect. Kids are not to be hurt by anyone.
- Leave. Don’t stay. Use loud, strong words and tell him or her how you feel. Then go away.
- Confront the person who uses Bully Behavior. Stand up to him. Let him know about your angry feelings. Tell him in a loud, firm voice, I don’t like it. Stop hurting me. I feel mad when you tease me. Take care of yourself. Get away.
- If the person is hurting one of your friends, get others to help you tell him to stop. Get support from others. There is safety in numbers. Stand up to Bully Behavior.
- Set strong limits. Tell him, I will play with you but you can’t call me names. I won’t stay and let you hurt me. Know how far you can be pushed. Tell him your bottom line. Stick to it.
- Try being nice to him. Children sometimes hurt others because they feel left out. If you use mean words and actions back, you are doing Bully Behavior.
- Do not bug someone who is mean to you. Your teasing gives him permission to get back at you. If you have teased someone in the past, make a new contract with him. Say I’ll stop teasing you if you will stop hitting me. Let’s shake on it.
- If the person keeps hurting you after many warnings, don’t try to play with him and be his friend. Let him know about his behaviors that make you choose to stay away from him.
- If someone tries to hurt you when you are outside, go to a safe place. Find a place where you will be safe. Go inside. Go to some adult you trust. Talk it out.
- If someone bothers you in the classroom, ask the teacher to have your seat moved.
- If you have to be around the person, ignore him. Do not look at him. Keep your body away from him. Stay away from people who hurt you. Do not go back for more.
- Don’t forget, kids should not be hurt. Don’t let yourself be bullied. Not even parents are supposed to hurt little kids.